Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin have a new book out for young ladies. It's (Not That) Complicated: How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane and Biblical Way, was released on November 1.
How do young men and young women interact with one another when marriage is not in view? Can young men and young women be ‘friends’? And how does a young woman guard her heart, preserve her purity, and walk in integrity without treating young men with disdain? In It’s (Not That) Complicated, Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin address these and other questions with wisdom, grace, transparency, and biblical acuity.
— Dr. Voddie Baucham Jr.
Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin address many great questions they have received from young ladies about how to handle relationships with young men. Here are a few questions they have been asked.
“My biggest concerns are how should I even treat boys period? I have
no idea how to act around them…I know I should be myself but, besides
“I’m not around a lot of young men, so when I am in a group with one,
it gives me the jitters. How do I act natural?”
“Is it a good idea to be good or close friends with a guy? And if you
do sense yourself beginning to be interested in someone, is it an
option to try to get to know them better, or should you keep things
the same and wait for the guy to make the first move?”
“If I say ‘hi’ and strike up a conversation is he going to think that I
am too forward, shouldn’t my kind of man be the first to speak, and
what will others think of what I do?”
“Where do you draw the line between being friendly, which is okay, and
being flirty, which is (presumably) not okay?”
“…can you encourage a potential suitor to pursue you without being
flirty, forward, or inappropriate? …can you let them know you are
available in a God-honoring way without becoming the initiator?”
“What takes a girl from someone a man likes to be around, to someone
he wants to spend his life with? I see a lot of lists by girls about
‘my husband must be such and such.’ But it seems all I ever hear from
guys is ‘a godly lady.’ What does that mean to them?”
“If there is a particular guy that I have noticed, what is the best
way to deal with these feelings? And what should I watch out for when
I am around him/do to guard my heart?”